I'm trying to not allow H's mood swings affect me too much but it's difficult. There are some days that he's really excited about the work he is doing and other days where he's miserable about his finances and his life in general. I know that it does help when I validate. He's also carrying around tremendous guilt about the PA. This is where IC might help him.
As far as OW, I don't think he's having contact with her (she dumped him, has moved on to a couple of other victims and wants nothing to do with him) but he's holding on to the fantasy even though he realizes and acknowledged to me the type of person she really was.
Me47 H46 S13 M16 Piecing since May/09
"Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it." Lou Holtz
