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SSL, I do not pray to save my marriage; I pray for understanding of what is best.

BH, Out of curiosity, did your X ever try to come back and is she still w/OP?

I noticed that in many cases, the X makes a tentative move in that direction and then takes off again. I also note that the WAS USUALLY has some words of regret and remorse at some point. It seems to be some YEARS after bomb drop, often when WAS is alone again. That doesn't often translate into any kind of effort to rebuild, as it is usually too late, but it's interesting nonetheless.

While I think there is a place for your point of view, being able to say that you did your best for a M means a lot, and for some people that means standing for a long time. So what is the point of trying to tell people who aren't ready to hear it to move on? People must come to this emotional conclusion themselves and for most on this board, I think they want to be able to say, with peace, that they tried everything.

After all, as I keep pointing out to you, you can know something is true but not feel it emotionally yet. I am not waiting on X, but on myself, as I finish trying to close that door. I would like to be more social but I am not up for a long-term relationship yet. This has had me thinking that maybe I need to be social without dating.

Upside, I think you may be right. It is hard to get to that point but I believe most of us do.