H is apartment hunting today

[trytryagain]

thanks, OTM...i get what you're saying. and i have said i don't want him to change but his response is that he thinks i WANT to believe that but i really don't. so frustrating when someone else tries to tell you how you feel. how would he know what i'm capable of??

anyway, i'm reading men are from mars, women are from venus right now, and i have to say, i'm really tempted to ask him to look through it. it outlines and explains SO MANY of the issues that have him feeling so defeated (like his need to pull away and my need for us to get closer), and at least for me it's made me feel like i'm not a freak for feeling so up and down since so many other women go through the same "wave" cycle. i know a book isn't going to change our marriage but if i could at least get him to see that our problems aren't beyond resolving and that so many other people experience the SAME THING we do...all i need is to crack that door open just a little bit, you know??

has anyone else been as enlightened by that book as me? of course i'm reading DR and other books (how to improve your marriage without talking about it is a great one, too)...but this one has really resonated with me.