Running out of time.

[MHL]

The W was on the phone with OM2 for three hours on Friday night (til 1:30 AM) and they exchanged 20+ text messages. The text exchange reads like a Jr. High school flirt session. I didn't check her phone on Sunday but I did this morning and three more hours of texting from 8-11pm (82 in total).

Not that I want to "one up" anyone in arena, and 82 texts is quite impressive. My W and OM1 sent/received 123 the night before I found out. Glad to hear you can laugh about it early on in your sitch, I wish I had been in such control, I admire you for your calm.

This guy must be pinching himself on how he got so lucky, no effort needed on his part. It must be like playing tee ball.

MHL,

What shenanigans can I likely expect over the next few weeks/months based on what seems to be a fairly similiar sitch to yours?

Here is my prediction on your W's sitch. OM2 will enjoy the tee ball session for a while but will grow tired after a couple of weeks b/c who would want an R with someone like this. I don't mean to disparage your wife, she is sick as is mine. This is all exciting and new to her and she is addicted to the chemicals releasing in her brain, you know this already.

When OM2 doesn't want to take her out or spend anytime w/her other than for you know what, she will get clingy and he will run but keep her on the dangling on the line, I would. She will look to OM1 for emotional fulfillment during this entire time, if OM1 finds out about OM2 he will be done. Keep this card in your pocket for now, you could play this either way on OM 1 or 2.

She will lose OM2 no matter what, it could be quick or take a while. OM1 is what lead her to her decision and she will hold on to that. My W kept OM1's number and stayed in contact during affair w/ OM2, I am convinced she spent NYE with OM1 which was 6 months after I discovered them and probably the first time they saw each other since, don't know for sure.

If OM1 is interested in a R with your W, and OM2 is out of the picture (well not as prominent), you could drop the "bomb" on OM1 after a couple of months, or do a double "bomb" on both. put them in touch with each other. I bet they both drop her, granted she will be pissed at you but at that point she will be tied down with the kids and want to get back out on the hunt. Nights out etc.

I wouldn't be surprised if she loses interest in the kids, my W did and has just now starting to miss them, 5 months later. I would really watch out for your kids at this point, no telling what she might do. If she loses other OM1 this will be a devastating blow to her esteem and she may start to look behind her to see what she was running from. Don't be there, she will look but you will be doing your thing and also being the best father in the world. She may keep running or may sink into depression, who knows??

Sounds like you are straped in and already hitting some pretty good hills on the this rollercoaster. IMHO, you are doing great and if you love your wife from a distance, you will get her back one day.