Oh dear, that's my new list of 180s - the ones I am hoping to keep up! I have not done them by far...a while back we talked about setting up some new 180s - how about you now, Rabbit? Good thing to think about before WEdnesday I imagine...
Good for you with handling the car thing on your own. I need to do this myself - actually have a few times. Electronics and cars are the biggies - usually H has handled these and I hate to do it myself because it makes me think he's relieved to be rid of me but I can see now that it's important.
H bailed out of MC today - I let him off the hook, maybe I shouldn't as this was the week I had mustered up the courage to stand up for myself and sure enough H has a hard weekend and I let him off the hook. I just felt I want him to be in optimal listening condition and he's too busy and stressed right now.
So I saw the MC independantly - he used to be my IC - and he brought up how I should stand up for myself with H! I said that's exactly what I thought but now H is MIA - typical, eh?
He confirmed that H is very hurtful and I get so painfully hurt and don't say anything (until I blow which of course is not really communicating). I said I gave up years ago hoping H would hear my pain over his anger/meanness/criticisms. He dismisses me and is very cold toward me.
So I decided no matter how scared I am, I must stand up for myself and my S. MC appreciated how much listening and taking responsibility for my stuff I've done and said now it's my turn to be heard.
I don't think it's an accident (although it may be unconscious) that H is MIA this week right when I was going to speak up. It's a classic way he has of being dismissive and absent for me and my feelings. OOOOH, the hard stuff now....
