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[gutwrenching]

Lotus - thanks for the push! I think I needed a push. I have looked up dates of Retrouvaille in this area, nothing on web. I just sent them an e-mail. I am willing to fly us somewhere to attend one of these, so I am going to look at cities for next few weekends (this weekend won't work, too quick for our life and commitments...I'm afraid she won't be willing the next weekend either...but I'm going to look). The cost of the airline tickets and hotels nothing compared to cost of D.

We need help communicating better - Retrouvaille should help. Everything I read about it, it is what we need. Deal with anger, deal with the mistrust, deal with the coldness...we don't hate each other, in fact we agree we are good friends. W doesn't think we can be more, need someone to help us get to more.

I doubt I'll bring it up tonight.

The hotel would be a nice start too...will suggest that too at some point, probably not tonight unless I'm getting a lot of positive vibes. If not, maybe I'll invite you!

Interesting input on OM. Could be. Maybe that's the real reason she doesn't want to decide now...wanted to give him time to decide to leave W and kids...though moving in together is not an option for them...no matter what, they will be thousands of miles apart.