She did say some realistic things which may mean the fog is lifting a little, SHe stated that she doesn't know what she is thinking thinkiong she actually loves OM when she has never spent time with him or what she is thinking getting involved with someone three states away. I didn't say anything to her. I am nothing like OM. I would never break up a marriage and I would never call soemone the way he did.
I honestly believe this is more of a testing of the boundaries. I doubt that the fog has lifted very far or for very long. Brace yourself for more testing.
I would suggest that you do not allow her to discuss her OM to you in terms that she does. It is a sign of disrespect. The only thing you are interested in hearing about the OM is that she has kicked him out of her life. The next time she even starts to say something about OM, hold your hand up and say, "It is very disrespectful to discuss your lover to her H. Until you can tell me that he is no longer a part of your life, please refrain from bring his name up in my presence". Then turn around and walk away.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
