Can I save my marriage?

[TrentC]

I'm with robx on this one.

I feel sorry for you, britt. Not in a condescending way, but in an genuinely empathetic way.

I don't know anything about your life or your upbringing, and only know what of your situation you have told us. But it must be horrible to be so scared of being alone -- so scared that that you would rather spend the rest of your marriage playing second fiddle to someone else's needs.

And you have no control over the future. What if he finds someone else who will make him happier and leaves for good? What if he gets hit by a bus, or killed in the line of duty?

I would strongly urge you to talk to your IC about these feelings of loneliness, and some of the co-dependancy issues we've touched on before.

Don't do it for your husband, or for us. Do it because you deserve to be happy.