Perception is "reality" in that the perception (and therefore, "reality") occurs in language. And without language, the world does not occur for us. Oh it exists and we are unable to describe it. The trick, if there is one, is to not have it based entirely in the past.
Here are the words that open what my autobiography:
I open with a question and my answer: ___________________________________ What is Love?
Words don’t begin to describe it or do it justice. It has many faces, many sensations and that variable mix is what gives the difference in how love feels and why it can feel different for different people and for different times.
But if I were to describe it I would simply describe it as the unconditional giving of oneself to another with unconditional acceptance of another and without expectation.
Key words are unconditional, giving, acceptance and without expectation. Sometimes those are tough ideals to live up to. _____________________________
That is the basis of my answer above where I say "in the name of love...."
Last sex: 04/06/1997 Last attempt: 11/11/1997 W Issues "No Means No" Declaration: 11/11/1997 W chooses to terminate sex 05/1998 I gained 60, then lost 85 pounds. Start running again (marathons)