CC - I think the IC will help you, it did wonders for me. After 2.5 years I look back at the person I was then and now.....goodness....seems unreal. I went through a few counselors until I found one that does wonders...finding one you are comfortable with and helps you progress and grow is key.
For me it helped sort out, deal with, and explain all my feelings to prevent or relieve my feelings of 'I'm going insane'.
It's pretty devestating to have things (like the text) happen. I discovered my best friend of over a decade and my H were having an affair through a letter/texts. Hard to recover after a blow like that but it does get better. It will even when it doesn't feel like it can or will.
