We all have bad days, which is not really comforting. But at least you don't have to feel alone. And you didn't cause your bad day.
One of the prevailing sources of misery and crime is in the generally accepted assumption, that because things have been wrong a long time, it is impossible they will ever be right. (John Ruskin)
Don't let yourself get too far down that path of doubt and sorrow. You can keep hoping and moving forward.
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Hoo boy. Up and down. Up and down. The roller coaster continues.
Nauseating, isn't it? It's part of the process unfortunately. Enjoy the hills, and plan ways to avoid (or at least prepare yourself for) the valleys. If you work out a strategy in advance on how to pull yourself out of the valleys, maybe it will be shorter and less painful when the bottom does drop out of your world. (And now I'm going to read this for myself!)
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The weekend was not very fun. Mostly me stewing about everything.
And you were so relaxed and optimistic about the weekend on Friday. It's a shame she undermined that Friday night. How could it have gone differently? What could you have done to improve the situation even after her admission?
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So, she can't IM him any more, but she certainly isn't going to be denied some form of contact with him.
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If I bring this up, she'll just say that she wants to know that he is okay, etc.
This is crunch time. You said NO contact. Did you mean it? What is the consequence for her choosing to keep in contact in any way? And tell her flat out that it is none of her business or concern how the OM is. He is not her problem. He is an adult and he'd better be capable of taking care of himself because if she wants you she can't "help" him. No more of this - you deserve better. Remember, a boundary has no purpose unless you're willing to enforce it.
Sorry the weekend was awful and that you're still miserable today. Smile even if you don't feel like it, and think that tomorrow is a new day. Make it a better day for you, regardless of what she does or says.
undefeated 24 H 24 S's 4, 2, 1 M 5 yrs
"Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all." ~Dale Carnegie
And you were so relaxed and optimistic about the weekend on Friday. It's a shame she undermined that Friday night. How could it have gone differently? What could you have done to improve the situation even after her admission?
