The spiraling stops slowly. There is just no easy fix. Detatchment is good for it, but it takes time to get there. You really have to be patient with yourself in this area.
Yes knee-jerk reactions are hard to stop. It takes a ton of practice and a ton of restraint. But you can do it.
Goals are something that you set for yourself. I would love to say for yourself right now and you M later. But ultimately, they are goals for you that could eventually play a role in your M.
So what are your goals? What would you like for you?
Keeping a roof and food for the kids and yourself is one. If you you have to go to court to do that (which it does sound like you do) then that is how you must go about it.
Having no idea what they MLCer is going to do is part of their script. They keep you on edge, maybe intentionally, but I think more because they don’t know what they are going to do from one minute to the next a lot of the time.
It is frustrating. It is scary. It is hard to deal with every day. As you get stronger and begin to realize that you can have a good life and stability for the kids (which you will realize as you simply do this), you will find that you are not so thrown when they do some of the things that they do.
Last edited by cat04; 01/25/1009:09 PM.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
