Everything that could happen has most likely already happened. Not even worth worrying about this.
Yes boundaries sooner than later. Scary as hell but the only success stories seem to be the ones where the cheated upon spouse stands firm.
...She has no respect for you...You earn her respect by standing up to her. She is gonna be p!ssed as h@ll but it is the first step.
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She claims that I am a great father and I take care of her well(cooking, cleaning, construction, errand boy, coffee barista, bartender, etc.)
Sounds like you are her b!tch. BTW when my wife went AWOL, that was my first inclination also. It is a common mistake.
What were you doing wrong before the bomb that led to this? Address those issues. You have to own up to your part of the problems/breakdown BUT at the same time you must tell her, you will not live in an open marriage. You can have one or the other but not both. Scary, scary, SCARY stuff but the only affairs survivers I've seen around here are the ones who finally got the guts to face it. FWIW my wife didn't get with the program until the DAY I planned to file. Now it's fairly good.
I'm sure one of the hardcore folks will be along shortly and will paste the whole boundries script into your sitch. Look for and read threads by Coach and/or Greek, you will get both sides of the story. Read Puppy Dog Tails, I think Overburdended is looking strong. Read this forum and the infidelity forum. You can probably learn more quickly by lurking and reading but by all means post. We will be with you,.
Me 44 She 46 S13 D9 M18 T23 3 years DB'ing Successfully busted
