Ring On or Ring Off????

[Jack_Three_Beans]

Many emotional emails sent over the weekend. My last from him: "I'll call a psychologist to see why I'ms so f**&^% up. You call a lawyer." I followed that with several more that were not replied to. In one I told him he should take his ring off --- because it obviously hasn't meant anything to him for a long time. He dropped off kids last night and yes, it is off.

You should...uh...stop sending the emotional emails.
How are those working out for you? Does it feel good to say those things? Do you think he is going to wake up by something you say?

See deep down, you say something like: "you should take your ring off --- because it obviously hasn't meant anything to you for a long time."

You're hoping that he is going to argue with you, and tell you no, no it actually DOES mean something to him...

Instead you get this:

He dropped off kids last night and yes, it is off.

Its ironic, you told him to take it off and it is off.
That ironic him doing things you tell him to do crap only works against you, by the way.

So - here I am at work staring at my empty ring finger. 23 years on that finger. There's quite a dent. How long does it take to go away?

If you don't your ring off, then don't take it off.

As for your lawyer, here is the funny part of it. A Lawyer works at your pace. You don't to start the paper work, then you don't...understand? I do not think you do.

You're dancing to the tune other set in front of you. YOU set the pace and fukc anyone who tells you otherwise.

He wants the divorce, then he does the work, you have a lawyer to make sure your interests are served and have her look at he paperwork HE files, not her, not you.

Stop dancing to his tune, make your own music, have HIM dance to it.