I totally agree with you. As I lived through the events of my own marriage, I was in 'survival' mode--"we can get through this, we can get through this"...
Just a week or two ago I laid out the framework of the lies/infidelities/betrayals my H has pulled in the course of our marriage. Seeing them all listed like that does make a person feel like such a 'loser' so to speak, for putting up with it and more so for still wanting to be with the spouse who did all the things listed...
You aren't alone in that. I know it doesn't help anything to hear that, but there are a lot of us who have 'tolerated' the intolerable in our efforts to keep our marriages...
Thanks BBJ. The saying "Love is blind" comes to mind when I think about all that I tolerated.
