Another Sad Deployed Soldier/Dad

[MichelleLT]

Ditto. If you do a family gift, then something non-romantic MIGHT be okay. But Valentine's day is probably the most dangerous holiday for us LBSs lol. Stepping into that mine field could leave you short a limb or two.

Plus, you just set the boundary of not sharing her, not wanting to be M to someone who doesn't want to be M to you. Make sure you show through your actions that you MEAN IT. Live it.

As you said, until she pulls her head out of her 4th point of contact, you are living only for yourself and the kids.

You can tell her that she doesn't need to move if she abides by your boundary. You can invited her along to family things with the kids, cuz no matter what she'll always be their mother and you will have contact even if you do D.

BUT, no expectations. Focus on YOU and the KIDS. What she does or doesn't do DOESN'T matter. You will have a great time with them regardless of her actions.

Enjoy your leave!!!!!!!!