i'll write things down and do a post this eve. The Panic is that i feel stuck and paralyzed and fear my w will just leave as soon as her ducks are in order. Dobson book really added to this boards sentiments. I feel that i'm in a race to do something Before she does. Does this make sense to anyone?? I'm still being the nice guy till there's a plan in place. The OM is not physically in the picture but nonetheless.