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[awest1217]

Lucky I completely agree with you. It is once again fear of the unknown. I think this would be a lot easier if it wasn't for the OW. She just won't go away. They are always "i miss you", and "ily". It drives me nuts! If he was just a WAS and said I want to come home I would say that it has to be for good and no leaving again, go to marriage counseling, etc., but with OW and the strong EA they are still having, it is just so hard because he sees nothing wrong with it. He says they are just friends and doesn't understand the problem, especially since OW's husband seems fine with the arrangement.

Either way so far no text from H about a meeting. I will probably try to call or text a little before dinner to get a date because I need to get this over with. I need to move on for my sake. The limbo with OW involved is just not ok anymore and there has to be a change. Honestly, the limbo isn't good for H either, and I really do think OW hasn't been around as much so he is lonely and misses me and S. It is just definitely scary and I am trying to not sound "motherly" or "teacher-like" with the boundaries, but I also want him to know they are boundaries for my life and if he wants to cross them that is fine, but I can't and won't follow anymore and that will mean D.