Hope is the thing with feathers....

[Bridgestone]

D update

We hopefully had the last mediation meeting this morning.
This went very well..

I'm still amazed sometimes how stupid StBX must think I am... to try
& pull what he does sometimes. I also keep thanking him for being himself.. as it just reaffirms I deserve so much more than who he is & what he can give in a relationship.

End result.. I've got a good deal,... much better financially & custody-wise of D15, than I would get in court and it fits me emotionally..which may sound b--chy
but he is not only going to pay with $$ but also with the stress & struggle of keeping his dream alive with no emotional support & a knives edge walk to balance it all, much like I did when I tried to work on my PhD.... equity in all things.

As far as the property settlement..Over 1/2 of the property settlement up front .. 1/4 of it within the next 30 months.. during which time I don't pay any expenses for the kids in lieu of interest. After I have 3/4 of the property settlement we split the kids expenses 50/50. With neither paying child support or alimony.

The last 1/4 he pays between year 5 & 9, as an unsecured, judgement
proof loan... in order to keep his business solvent with the bank. It still needs to run past the bank, but StBX seems to think it will fly.

If the timeline the mediator laid out this morning holds, I should be
divorced by the end of February.

Relief & sadness all at the same time..

relief for the new beginnings and sadness for the loss of hopes, dreams, partnerships, etc..

I never have done well with good-bye & grieving.

thanks for walking this path with me, those that are still here & reading along.. I have been blessed by your company every step of the way.

Peace
Bridge