I have been following along every day but like others not sure what to post since you have made it farther than I did.
Dan is terrified of emotions, too. He saw his dad yell and his mom cry and hated it, every day. So if I get 'emotional' he has to either run away and hide from it or get angry about it, he just doesn't know how to handle it!!
Anyway just saying I think it can be common for men esp those brought up with certain family patterns to be 'afraid' of emotions. Too bad for them when they marry women who embrace their emotions and FEEL them!
The counselor sounds like she is on the right track, I hope you guys keep going.