I am not sure why you feel sick over what other people do that have nothing to do with you. You need to seriously develop an IDGAF attitude. Get the t-shirt.
I hope my kids actually unfriend him. I think curiosity gets to them and they wonder what he is doing.
He keeps texting "Hows it going?" I haven't responded..but want to say "How do you think its going loser? You have changed my life forever and not in a good way. Because of you I am in a really bad place in alot of areas of my life!"
I need a nap!
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
I was just updating my journal and was amazed at yesterdays sociopathic crap:
11:53 a.m. How is it going? 12:38 a.m. How is it going? 12:30 a.m. How is it going? Me: Fine. 12:51 p.m. Whats the problem? 1:00 Whats the problem? 2:50 How's baby? Me: Shes good. 3:10 What is the problem? You busy or what? Me: Yes 3:12 Ok. What is baby doing? Me: She is playing. 3:16 What is the problem? 5:24 How is baby? 5:50 How is baby? 6:15 How is baby? 8:00 Give baby a kiss for me. 8:15 How is baby. Me: Fine.
This is rather typical on the weekends if he is alone. If he isn't then he disappears.
Feeling better this morning. Hoping to get to my kickboxing tonight. The sun is shining at least till tonight
My kids were home last night so it was nice to have some company and baby loved it too!
Trying to get a new PMA!
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
um, why are you talking to me? I did not advise her to pay 3k, I told her not to. there is a special program out there for people who are having problems paying. however, I agree that not paying your mtg is a scary thing and that's why I didn't do it.
confused why you were accusing me?
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
definitely don't do that. I know you want him out of your life, but unless he was a drug dealer, or someone who was physically abusive, or someone that would hurt your daughter, you have to think about your daughter on this one. And IMHO, it is in her best interest that you help them have a good R.
But, I know you need a break from him, that's okay, take it. take care of yourself, you've worked yourself so hard and you deserve a time out.
yes, I hope that your kids unfriend him too, as a statement that they don't approve of his R with this person. Now, your exh was like their dad before right? how close where they during that time?
I remember after my parents D'd and I was 16 or 17 I believe and my dad had GF's, one right after another. the man can't be alone. and he would live with these women. finally I told him I wouldn't be going over anymore because I did not approve. I especially did not approve my younger siblings going over while he was sinning in God's eyes and teaching them by his actions that it was okay. of course the excuse is always, but we can't afford to live separately, blah blah. anyways, it was a good convo, we both cried, and I didn't go over anymore, and he didn't kick her out, but at least I said my peace and stood for my boundary.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
hey, I think that when you FINALLY text him back, this isn't going to stop him texting you. it's like that little kid that keeps asking "mommy, please can I have it" and you keep saying "no", and then finally after the 10th time you give in and say yes.
I would suggest, that if you want it to only be about baby, then stick to that. If he asks a question about baby, then answer politely, and if it isn't, then perhaps don't answer at all (but you should tell him your boundary first).
have you already told him you are not going to text him about things that are unrelated to baby? if not, then tell him politely that "I appreciate your concern for baby, however I would like to ask you to no longer text me if it is not about her, because I will no longer respond to those texts. Thank you for respecting my wishes on that."
otherwise, he's going to keep sending the texts because he knows your going to respond eventually. and if you don't want him to blow up at you for you ignoring him, then I would suggest to send him that mesg I posted above. I would suggest that either way actually, so you have stated your boundary to him, and then you will stick to it and show him that you have respect for yourself and that he should respect your boundaries.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
I have told him its all about baby now but he seems to forget that. In his mind "what is going on?" is related to baby, but its really not. It also brings up how many times can he ask me how baby is before its manipulation and control? Once or twice a day is fine. Then its also a double standard...Saturday the only communication we had was him sending that pic of him and baby. Nothing after that. So when its convenient for him or MGF isn't around he is madly texting...when he is bored he texts and I am supposed to jump right on it.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
I have told him its all about baby now but he seems to forget that. In his mind "what is going on?" is related to baby, but its really not. It also brings up how many times can he ask me how baby is before its manipulation and control? Once or twice a day is fine. Then its also a double standard...Saturday the only communication we had was him sending that pic of him and baby. Nothing after that. So when its convenient for him or MGF isn't around he is madly texting...when he is bored he texts and I am supposed to jump right on it.
That is a bit crazy. I guess he doesn't see that.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Wow. You really were having a down day yesterday. How are you feeling today? Any better?
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Wow. You really were having a down day yesterday. How are you feeling today? Any better?
Kevin
Yes..much better! Like I said I tend to get down/depressed when I am on overload mentally and physically.
Exh just sent a text saying he has to work late and most likely will not make his visit today. Glad he sent that ahead of time.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
