Both of you listen to me I am getting a big 2x4 and hitting both of you. This is your new RULE. It is IMPORTANT. KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT! Eyes and ears open. No texting, e-mailing, talking to your H. When you don't do what I am saying what has been the result? Divorce talks???? If you want to get divorced then don't listen to me and keep doing what you are doing. Thats it thats the 1 rule. Start doing it right now. PLEASE.....
Point taken OP.
How would you suggest that mb28 and I go about things when there has to be regular communication about small children though? About the only thing that H and I agree on is wanting to coparent and keep this is non-traumatic for the kids as possible. I'm trying to communicate by email as much as possible to avoid getting sucked into conversation, but my emails are brief and I try to send them frivolously. I don't text at all. I also engage in very brief small talk, mostly for the benefit of the children, e.g. "how was your weekend?". I want to avoid giving H the silent treatment because it would affect the children in a negative way, and it could send H a message of a bitter, brooding LBW. Since I started DBing, H has only mentioned D once, and I totally didn't react or respond, just continued looking at him with a pleasant expression on my face. That stopped the conversation.
At some point, though, H is going to say: "I want to proceed with mediation". What do I say then?
Hoping this isn't highjacking mb28 -- we have similar dilemmas.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
