Ive been very hopefully so far.

[Hopingtomakeit]

Hi,

Guys, i figured i would start a new thread because mine was getting long and a lot of stuff wasn't as import anymore. anymore.

Here is my original thread if you want to know everything.

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1904715&page=1

Here is the current situation.

My W wants a D and wants me out of the house. (Or so she has said) However, to get to that point i need to get my car fixed and to save up for my own apartment. We are currently trying to save for that while i work on the marriage and she does the bare min because she isnt sure she wants to. We also have done very odd things like buy a new couch, end tables and fans. (all this money could be used to get me a new car but have been used to buy other things and kind of putting it off the car and saving for the move out. These have all been her choices, i of coarse have accepted them because once i get a car the closer i am to losing my family/wife)

We have our ups and downs week and we are trying to not talk about the R as much as possible. We are currently in this weird sort of limbo. Sometimes, we talk about plans together and what we could do if we stayed together. Other time, we just spend time together and kind of deal with the fact that we may be having a D.

I have done a 180, i have changed my ways. I have been the husband that both my wife and I want to be. I am waiting for some sign that she wants to be with me and it doesnt seem to be coming. We have very little to no physical interaction. I notice she barely looks at me when we talk. However, i watch her actions and listen to her words and i can tell she wants to make this work. (even if she doesnt admit it... I have changed to we's ect ect )

So, im kind of stuck. I need help. I am doing my best at the GAL and Last Resort. Its a struggle for me because part of our problem was i wasnt focused on the R as much as i should. Also, i have found our in this experience that i feel loved and cared for via praise. I am trying to now focus on the R while showing her that i dont need her but rather want her around.

I have a daughter and she lives with me every other week. On those weeks sadly i need to be home because i need to pick her up using our one car ect ect. However, on the other weeks when im not with my daughter. I could be anywhere. I have friends who would make sure i got too and from work for a week. I am basically wanting to discuss that thought of possibly leaving for a week and seeing what happens. I wanted to hear some thoughts for vets and see what we could come up with.

On one hand i want to show her that i will be there for her. She also gets sick alot and i worry when im not there.

On the other hand, maybe she needs to realize what its like without me. I am sure, she will get angry and upset but she needs to work it out herself much like i need to work on myself.

I also fear she might be a cake eater...its hard to tell.


So, i would love to hear peoples thoughts if you have some.