-I've gone on some coffee/drink dates lately to get my mind elsewhere. It helps short term but it feels weird. Not sure of my stance on dating while separated. I know I have a clear conscience, but I am also noticing that it can add undue stress to my life if I let it (scheduling, drama, etc)
Sounds like you're in a better place. As for the dating thing--there are many advocates on this board for and against. I think that right now, you need clarity of purpose. If dating fits with that, fine. If it gets in the way, don't.
Originally Posted By: Norseman05
I think I need help with balancing meeting her needs with detaching. I know she is telling people she feels very alone.
Meeting her needs is not your job right now...it may never be again. She has decided that Mr. dbag can meet them. Your job right now is to meet your needs and the needs of your boys. She'll either come back or she won't...you need to be whole either way. You may decide you don't want her back.
