My Story...possible "grass is greener" scenario?

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nsw, please understand I'm not taking swipes at you. I agree with Gardener's post, especially the last para.

Detaching is not NC per se. It involves letting W take responsibility for her choices and accepting reality for yourself - you will make progress towards being a better you regardless.

Mind-reading is not going to help. Yes, it's hard not to indulge, but it's necessary. Why the heck would you be concerned with W's gym work from both the detachment and mind-reading angles, for example?

She's your W. You should put your foot down on ANY inappropriate relationship, "physical" or not. You're handing her your nuts on a platter by not "escalating" as long as she is not gonna sleep with OM? And gee, actually condescending to give YOU one-on-one time? She's really working at it, ain't she?

No respect = no love = no M.

Remove yourself from your sitch and think objectively - If you saw someone else post your sitch, what should the consequences of the W's actions and disrespect be?