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I think your wife is being sincere. You're in a unique position to turn this around IF you want to.

From what I can see, she is giving you the correct signals. Right now OB, only you can make that decision. Earlier on you said that she will get the first shot. She may be trying to guilt you, but the content of that text message does not look like WAS-speak to me.

I don't know how soon she will be able to find a job or move out. If you think it will take some time then continue working on yourself. If you think she will be able to move out soon, then perhaps you could share the following with her:

"W, I believe you are sincere. You are the mother of my children and if we get D then you have to be able to provide for them. I don't want you to rush into your next job just to get out of here. Haste has caused you to make many mistakes. I'm dealing with a lot right now. Give me some time to let my emotions settle so I can make a rational decision on how to proceed from here. Contrary to what you may believe, I also want the best for you."

This should buy you the time you need to make your decision. At this stage I don't think it would be wise to let her leave. Do you remember this post from yourself:

I said - " I wanna know the truth about what happened first, I wanna know how you could just turn and do something like that. 2nd I want some one that wants me and I want them back. If that's you u than it needs to show on both of our faces and in our actions. 3rd you need to be transparent, let me know what is going on in your mind and your life. I have trust issues as far as you are concerned."

Look at the red. This is the information she is working off.

I think it is safe to let your guard down a little bit now. I won't lie to you, the journey to reconciliation is a long and painful one -- FOR BOTH SIDES. If you decide to go down that path both of you will need to be patient.

I wish you the best OB.