snodderly- You are right that there was a part of me that was hoping that my H would continue contact. That is what would make sense to me (there I go being rational again ). If he really meant what he said the other night, it seems like he would make an effort to at least talk to me. It makes me feel like what he said wasn't the truth.
Originally Posted By: snodderly
They come out, talk rationally, think out loud in a rational tone and then disappear again for a while. That's why it is a very difficult time for those who have spouses or even ex-spouses that come out for a bit and actually talk some sense. It's a moment of clarity and then they go under once again.
I just want to understand why. It seems like if they get it, that should be it...not get it and then run away again. I wish I knew what is it that makes them stop running and finally sort themselves out?
I believe I am doing the right thing by not letting the relationship continue the way it was. I was helping my H prolong this crisis since he was able to live in both worlds. So if I know I am doing the right thing, why is it still so difficult? I wish I was stronger and able to move forward without it hurting like he11.
). If he really meant what he said the other night, it seems like he would make an effort to at least talk to me. It makes me feel like what he said wasn't the truth.