I think I'm one of those that posted to your thread in the past. I hope that you realize: By not being completely open about your situation you basically shot your own foot off. You followed tactics that most probably were backfiring more than they were helping.
I do not condone your W's behavior in having an affair because she could probably have handled things better. However, she did do the right thing by dumping your a$$. She deserved better and now she's looking for it.
I am a little upset that I tried to help you... only because I could have spent that time helping someone else who was more open where my opinion could have made a difference.
We only half of the story from the person seeking help. Add to it that we get zero of the WAS's side means we work with only 25% of the facts. That is something many people here fail to realize.
You are in a unique position to help women on this board to understand what is going on in their H's mind. That understanding can be a band-aid for their healing. Too often I have seen LBS's chase away WAW's and WAH's by judging them.... only to end up crying for insight from the very same people.
I for one hope that you stick around here to help others. If it will help... I'd like to 'guilt' you into it... You owe it to the people that tried to help you.
Gnosis I am so sorry for everything. I thank you for your help and I apologize once more for not telling you everything. At that time that i was asking for help with my marriage, my wife did not know of any of this. I was depressed and withdrawn as I said i was. However, I was depressed and withdrawn because i have been hiding this for years and years.
Yes she dumped me. And yes she deserves better. There is nothing i can do to except accept my addiction. I never intended to tell anyone about this. I never intended to continue if i ever got a second chance. But i realize now that no matter what the outcome was, this would never let me move forward. Now that i have admitted to this, i can maybe move forward.
