gman, she will go back and forth with her state of mind. She likes what she sees with you, but wants to guard herself into falling back into something that made her so miserable in the first place.
Continue the path, took my wife about 4 or 5 months before she announced that "we're good". I have seen this process take less time and I have seen it take much more time on these boards so don't go by my situation. Just wanted to tell you it takes time for the W to figure out the changes being made are truly changes that are being made permanently.
Re: Stress, do not try to fix it. If she asks you to calm the kids down, of course do it for the sanity of the house. But it also let's her know that if you are not around her anymore that she will have no one to take control of a situation that she is not good at controlling herself. Was in my sitch as well.
