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rr22 #1922918 01/24/10 06:06 PM
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Good thought rr22!

Well not to help him sort out his feelings but just listen and validate.

Not to give him ideas what to do in the day but be positive about what he has done during the day.

To see the good things he has done and not the things he hasnt done (old habit needs to die)

To fill his LL's of Words of Affirmation and Physical Touch. In turn he will fill mine as they are the same lol! So cuddle time is something not to be broken.

Not to find him places to do his new found hobbies but encourage him to look.

Cant think of anymore at the moment but thats a good start for him now maybe I need to have a look at my 180's and give them a dust over!


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Those sound good. I'm in a tough spot because I feel touch could help but I'm not allowed to. Or I get mixed messages about that.

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I also like not giving suggestions about the day but be positive about whatever has gone on during day. That's a good one.

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Ok, we're in the same non-fixing boat. See my thread. Different sitch, same idea. H has had a really bad turn the last few days with lots of things breaking, etc. It's my urge to run in and fix it all, man it's hard not to. We can do this, just like with ODP = shall we call it ODF? (Operation Don't Fix).


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H4L now come your just being a copycat now lol!

Off to see what ODF youre up too, like the new initials btw!


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Forgot to add my good validation today, H has a rotten job to do today so when he txt to say he was waiting a call back I sent him hugs as I know its a nasty thing to have to do, the old me would just have been too balistic to care!

Honestly learning to breathe, take stock and validate the good bits has changed my life!


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Good for you. I need to keep a list of daily gratitudes and affirmations or something. I think it helps.

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If ODF is Operation Don't Fix, what is Operation Don't Fight? ODBF? Operation Don't Bun Fight?....

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rofl rr22 yep we can have ODBF as well lol! anything to keep us sane eh?


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lol love it. ODP< ODF, ODBF - codes for success!


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