addie, to me it seems that he is hitting a low. I cant advise much, I can only tell you that according to PM, it is exactly at times like this one that you must hold on to yourself, not lose focus, be clear and have boundaries and learn how to sooth yourself and deal with the anxiety this causes to you, irrelevant to what he does.
If he feels that bad, it explains him turning to the fantasy of the OW again. I hope he does go to IC and ASAP because I see no end to his frustration. K
