Looking for Advice

[gutwrenching]

We've had a lot more talking still no resolution. I'd say right now she is 95% gone but not 100% and she has said she doesn't want to have to make this decision so quick. She talks a lot more about the jobs/locations in terms of us being D. I asked her about that and her reply was if we are together its easy, we live in the same house and there's nothing to think about. Don't know if I believe that or not.
At some point, she said our biggest issues right now are trust and lack of communication. But later she says she isn't trying, so how in the world are we going to communicate. I know, typical WAS, and we are having this discussion to soon.

She is leery of Hawaii because we would have to continue to work closely together which would be more awkward and would run into each other more since it is a small island.

She admits she still isn't trying and doesn't think we can get the spark back. She admits we are good friends and very compatible, but there is nothing more and she doesn't think I am capable of giving her more.

We still have to figure out what to do. We've agreed the real issue is our R/M situation not anything else. If we were doing fine, this would be a no brainer. She doesn't think a separation now does us any good because I will trust her less (since I won't be here to watch her) and we won't be communicating/working on things/etc.

One more thing, and I don't know if this is good or bad, looking for feedback and this has nothing to do with figuring out the job. As I have been trying hard to build some friendships with other people and GAL, she too is obviously noticing. I've been talking with two people a lot more, one male, one female, both married. W seems very cognizant of female friend. Is this good or bad. In fact, she made a comment tonight that she wondered how she would feel if she had to drop off the kids to me with another W. She said she was ok with it, and then said especially if it is ___ because I really like her. WOW...that one caught be off guard. This person is married and has been for 20 years. But is my W suspecting something? In fact, this friend was a sitter for us last night. Another couple invited us out to dinner and we couldn't say no. We had trouble finding a sitter and this female friend has helped us before so wife said to me "you call her, you're her buddy these days"
I ignored the comment, called her, and she agreed to watch the kids for us.
Is this good or bad?