Separated, new baby, but still hopeful

[newmama]

okay here is my seduction plan...will continue my distance but during my brief presence, will start to leave little hints that will become images/thoughts in WH's mind (ala AoS). Since he is a sensual man but loves to be needed, I will be appealing to his senses in the following ways (this is fun by the way):

scent: wearing perfume HE likes, burning candle with scent that HE likes, cooking food that gives off pleasant aromas that linger (italian seasonings, garlic and onion, etc.)


visual: he looooves color, multi color especially. So I purchased some blouses on sale that had multi colored patterns but fit well.I bought nice pillows for the couch that are color coordinated with the room. He loves my long hair so I will continue to wear my hair down. He likes lip gloss and lipstick, too, but I have a plan for that. He also likes fitted shirts and clothes that hug the curves (like all men) so I will wear those clothes. The house will stay clean as well. I will continue losing weight.

auditory: he loves music, mostly rock but alternative as well. I timed it yesterday to have that kind of music playing on pandora when he arrived home with S (I enjoy some of the same bands that he listens to so I am not faking it). I was listening to it when cleaning. So I plan to have it on again when he comes here from work to see S. Also, I will work very hard to not flap my jaw so much.

taste: I will have some food that he likes in the fridge, will still cook on occasion (once per week), have wine he likes, etc.

touch: sigh, this is a tough one. I guess by keeping the house clean, it helps. I tried to find some soft sweaters or sulky shirts to wear so I could brush past him...but only have stuff in my closet that is a little small still (will fit 20 pounds from now)

mystery: AoS says you need to let the victim become curious so carefully plan when and how you will show him clues of your mysterious side. Well I won't do this all in one week, but over the next 3 weeks: will be dressed up with lipstick on Thursday night and when he arrives to pick up S for is overnight visit this Friday. (I want him to associate lipstick with going out) I will leave some of my new lingerie out on the washing machine "to dry." I will somehow show the coin skirt I will buy for my belly dancing class. I am planting herbs but will first get the seedlings started indoors. At some point I will show/share the wii...he can catch me playing a game. I am watching a new sci-fi show (we both like science fiction) and will record it on the DVR so he will be bound to see it recorded and possibly inquire. Now I don't want all of this stuff to be discovered in the same way, so I'll need to reveal them in various ways.

The other thing from AoS so far is that you have to be subtle and carefully take advantage of every interaction with your victim. Plan every move and py attention to details, timing, etc. If you are too obvious they will see that you are playing games and will be pissed that you are being manipulative.

Oh and I need to remind WH that I'm foxy, not just a mom, so I started working out in just my sports bra and shorts(since I've lost weight, it is safe to do this now, LOL), and I think my confidence from losing weight, my new clothes and lingerie will help remind him.

Oh yeah and another thing...to appeal to his need to be needed; will allow certain acts of service to continue and show my appreciation for them. I will ask his parenting advice and for other stuff.

And will really really improve not interrupting him, listening carefully to what he says, repeat his words back (i.e. active listening).

Now before you get the wrong image of me doing all of this and following him around the house, au contraire...will be doing my own thing but all of he above can be accomplished with me minimally talking to him! My things will be around the house, but I will be absent!

AoS does say that it's important to be in good spirits when they see you so they will begin to subconsciously associate you with feeling good; relaxed, positive.