Trying to move on

[goldeylox]

Clinging, pardon me for stepping in here...I've not read your whole sitch.
If your wife did not have good examples of healthy M growing up, she had a choice about learning a better way.
If you needed to grow, you took steps, like joining this community.
Taking care of yourself is the best way to raise healthy kids.
Trust me. I did it the other way, and it didn't work.
Nothing I could do would save my M, but I did save myself in the process of meeting the DB'ers.