It has been a while since I last posted to you, but I have been following along.
I think Carlos's suggestion of a perspective shift is very helpful. I would add this: be patient with yourself as you try, it takes time. At least, it took me a long time to learn how to do this. Actually, I still work at it today.
For me, I get the most peace when I gently remind myself to shift my gaze back to myself (things are different for me now - I am divorced and no longer wish to be with my ex, but that does not mean I do not lose perspective on other things in my life) and focus on making the most of a moment that I am experiencing and that's it. I try not to think too far beyond the moment I am in. I am not always successful, but I try.
I guess what I am trying to say to you, albeit a bit circuitously - sorry for that - is just stay focused on what you need to do to be the best you can be in the moment, just as you have been doing for these past months. When you do that, you enjoy an evening out late with friends, as you described in your post.
Be present in your life, in each moment of your life and I think you will find that by being truly present in those moments, you'll have little time to think about how many months it has been or how long to wait. Just try to live and the rest will take care of itself. I know this sounds trite, at least it seems as though it does as I type it, but I am living what I tell you - not always and not perfectly, but often and it brings enormous peace and comfort. I think you deserve that.
