Wife wants best of both worlds

[ClingingToHope]

DW and Mishka. In my case, I had warning bells going off in my head all throughout the 10 months I lived with W and her parents -- and younger sister.

The first time W told me about her mother, she said she was perfect. When I met her mother, well, I didn't see perfection. I saw a woman with a lot of issues.

That made me wonder. But still I felt I was "saving" W from this family. That was, looking back, an elemental mistake. Not only didn't W likely want saving, she wanted me to totally adopt this family and I was too immature to figure that out until this year.

I could talk all day about her sisters as well. I am really worried their issues will be passed on to my daughters. So far, they seem to be adopting my personality.