mb28, He is definitely having an A, after what your MIL said. There it is done, you know. He is in denial and it trying to accuse you of what he knows he is guilty of. It is his way of dealing with guilt, it is very childlike. Do you ever remember when you were a kid and someone in class did something wrong, break or steal something and then they accuse someone else of the crime to shift the attention away from them.
Originally Posted By: mb28
But I would like to know what I can do now, that will make him start second guessing being with the OW.
You can't make him do or think anything right now. You have to start doing things for you not for him to notice. Show him your strength to handle things w/o him. That does not mean he is relieved of his obligations as a father and the one that moved out. If he has to live with his Mom the rest of his life, that is his problem. As Lolal said, this is going to take a while and as I have said before you are going to need to think in terms of months and yes maybe years. Remember, patience, Patience, PATIENCE is what this is going to take. You have already made progress early on in your sitch but need to keep doing the right things.
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