Onwards and upwards!

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This is the better reason to move! I feel relieved for you just thinking of it! I don't know how you handle being so close to their existence...you are stronger than you know!

Thanks Newmama. I don't know if I'm stronger. It's really tough to know you're wife is about 500 yards from where you sleep naked in the bed and arms of another man. But you live with that. It's one of the easiest things to live with. As I said, the tossing our loving marriage (and it was loving, deeply deeply loving for at least 6 years) to the side of the road in a heart beat that causes me the most pain.

There is nothing left for me here. D's mum is actually thinking of moving to the same place as me as she sees life passing her by.

Like I have said before and got 2x4 (which is okay...we don't always have to agree ;-) ) I just don't believe one can fully detach unless one is dating someone else or has divorced. Just my opinion.

I would never give you a 2x4 Newmama! We just disagreed I think you can detach without those things. However, I can't

But as for you reconciling in your home town, it could actually be a model for others. i.e. to show that it is possible to reconcile after an A- BUT you'd have to flaunt your renewed passion, LOL.

This is something we always did. We ALWAYS flaunted our love. I love public displays of affections. EVERYWHERE we went we were always holding hands. EVERYWHERE. We always kissed in her store when I met her. She was always really happy and smily with everybody. When we made love she'd ALWAYS go to wowrk with a huge glowing smile on her face (that is her words not mine). I She was a happy woman. Everybody saw that. I don't know what they see now, but as I said on threads here before, the last time I did hear they were all complaining about her.

On the other hand, starting over in a different location sounds a little easier and romantic, too.

It does. But again, it's just not detaching The move is for ME not for US.