I am the cause

[newmama]

Underdog, I didn't mean to make light of what you did or other WSs. Would you like us to offer ideas for the support your (ex)wife needs? I bet you are right; the pain of a betrayed spouse is worse than the guilt of a wayward spouse. So you can answer all of her questions honestly, you can create a timeline, you can never stop apologizing, you can keep going to meetings(who or what do you turn to for hope? that is your higher power), go to IC, and fight for her. Even if she says she doesn't want to talk to you, send/drop off flowers or a card or a mixed song CD or her favorite snacks/dessert every so often. Write letters and send them to her. NO MATTER IF SHE TRULY IS DONE, BE THE BEST DAD YOU CAN BE!