I’m not too stressed about the OW, just the fact that I would really like to know if there is one. If there is, I’m sure it won’t last. I’m normally a controlling person, but this sitch has taught me a lot about letting go of that control, especially where my H is concerned. If he wants to be with an OW, then that is his choice and he will have to live with consequences of it. I’m a true believer in what goes around comes around. In addition, I believe he will regret his decision someday. Whether that will be in time to save our M or not remains to be seen.
Kara,
I totally understand about the snooping getting out of control and taking over someone’s life. I have days where it has already been out of control for me. That is one reason I think it will help me to find out for sure. I really believe that if I know for it will help me detach. I think it will stop all my snooping once I know for sure. I know lots of others won’t agree with me on that one, but it is truly, how I feel. If I know for sure, I would not have any more reason to snoop. Don’t get me wrong, I will be heartbroken about it, but then again I’m already heartbroken over this whole separation anyway.
I do know now more than ever, that I will be ok and that I will survive this no matter the outcome. However, if I would have never found this site, I think it would have taken me a lot longer to feel that way. Thank you to all that have helped me and given me such great advice. I hope to play it forward as much as I can.
Together 16 years Married 12 years Me 36 H 34 D9 & S6 Separated 12/3/09 Confirmed A 1/25/10 Exposed A 1/26/10 H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10
