Scared and need advice

[avermont]

Thanks for the detailed reply, LFA.

I got totally fired up to send him an email about all the financial stuff.

He beat me to it...sent an email about taxes and "moving forward" on the house.

I managed to send him a curt email with all the tax info I had. Attached the quicken report, and asked him to tell me whether it was the right/enough information.

The hurting part was him asking "moving forward on the house." I replied" "I asked for a year before we made big decisions on the house. That year starts August 1st, when I learned of the decisions you made to change your lives. I hope you will respect that request."

I can't reply coherently to your thoughtful, detailed post right now, as I am a total mess. But I want you to know how much I appreciate you sharing to so much. ..yeah, right, the joint account helping to support his affair. Great.

Glad you are making steps to separate your accounts and keep yourself safe, financially. Fortunately, we both kept separate accounts and the joint was equally paid into, and just for household/apartment stuff.

I am a total wreck right now, can't write much more.

Please keep checking in; I appreciate the support.