LRTs? 180s? When there isn't at least a basic level of detachment coupled with clearly communicated boundaries for consequences for violations?

I think you may find it useful to re-visit the basics ...

Me 42
W 39
Married: 11 Jan 1998, T: Since 1992
First Bomb: Sep 2007
Confirmed A/OM: 4 Nov 2007
Kids: D10, S5
Reconciled and together again after (alot of) time and heartbreak.
3rd kid, S, born 2 Jan 2010.