I can only imagine how you feel. When I read what you wanted to post on FB it was struck me as funny because I realize that our lives at times do seem to be like a soap opera or insane comedy. I wonder what would have happened if you did post that?
You know that you did as much as you could. I really don't know what could be intruiging about a 21 year old girl. I wish them well!!!
You have handled yourself with class and grace. Good things will come your way.