I did not get my goals done today. No signing of the papers, No dress gone.
I am disappointed in my self. That way. But very proud of myself that I can stand in the same room as her and just be myself. No fear. No anger. In control. Not being controlled. Ladybug no longer has any power over me.
I understood that the signing of the papers was her choice (guess I misunderstood). The goals of having the papers signed and the dress gone were things for her participate in, so why be disappointed in yourself? Leaving the dress is symbolic to me. Anyhow, you haven't shut the door if you are considering offering to her to reconcile.
Great SELF control--proof that you could look into her eyes and not feel fear or anger or loss of power. Cool and confident... very attractive. Good job!!
Last edited by Day by Day; 01/25/1012:29 AM.
M40, H39 M17 T20 D13, S12 H moved out 05/09 D filed 1/10
I thought that I needed to clarify the timing and context. As for mentoring Cutter... that's as far from the truth as it can get. We're good friends and talk in the real world because we have things in common. I can't claim the title of "mentor" here.
Well BIL called me. Asked me how I was doing. And well he informed me that ladybug has an apartment now. Hence the movement of all that stuff from the house. His opinion of the day is that it was hard. Damn hard. And that ladybug does not look well. And that she was in total shock of how I was.
Interesting. I will keep these thoughts as well. Explains what she took today. Furniture for her apartment. 3 days in apartment and 4 days at OM's house.
Flowers always make people better, happier, and more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul. unconditional love is awesome!
Well BIL called me. Asked me how I was doing. And well he informed me that ladybug has an apartment now. Hence the movement of all that stuff from the house. His opinion of the day is that it was hard. Damn hard. And that ladybug does not look well. And that she was in total shock of how I was.
Interesting. I will keep these thoughts as well. Explains what she took today. Furniture for her apartment. 3 days in apartment and 4 days at OM's house.
Cutter, I am in awe of how you handled yourself. And, obviously you had an impact!
All you need now is another goal to top off your week!
Cutterbug, way to go by shocking ladybug with your demeanor! Was she also taken back by your glowing skin and sweat dripping down your face from running? (LOL)
Now I don't get something-how do you know the amount of time she is staying in her apartment vs OM's place?
And where was she staying before? I forgot...sorry!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
Cutterbug, way to go by shocking ladybug with your demeanor! Was she also taken back by your glowing skin and sweat dripping down your face from running? (LOL)
Now I don't get something-how do you know the amount of time she is staying in her apartment vs OM's place?
And where was she staying before? I forgot...sorry!
Via 1 friend and brother in law. She is a proud and stubborn woman.
Before she was staying at one of her girlfriends place.
Everyone else. Thank you very much for your replies.
Flowers always make people better, happier, and more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul. unconditional love is awesome!