Can any good come out of giving W some "space"

[brknheart]

If that person is gone, they have to face the fact that the person who caused the misery is themselves.

Great comment.

I felt like my W tried to brainwash me into thinking I was a terrible husband, she even says I was not a good husband when we "tried" to work things out. One of her many justifications was "I was never happy in the 11 years we were married." She said this again the other day, I asked why did you drag me on this long, you should have either left me after the 1st year or demanded MC. She didnt have a response. Several people, including a sibling of hers, told me early on that my W has never been happy with herself. Your comment hits the nail on the head, she will have nobody to blame when Im gone for good, misery will still be there.