I am in no way a position to be offering marriage advice and haven't read your entire thread. I am just guessing that if your W is have a tough time at work, maybe she is missing the comfort you provide eachother as well.
What if you asked her about it? W, I know you are having a hard time at work. I am too. Could we talk about it?
Or maybe this is something you would bring up at MC?
BTW - Have you been doing your homework?
Me & H: 33 yrs S: 4 & 6 D: 2 M: 9 yrs ILYBNILWY: 8/09 SEPARATED: 9/09 The Beginning