I'm hoping I found my way back to your original thread, so I don't hijack others.
I wanted to ask how you are handling finances/taxes, as our sitches are so similar.
X hasn't contributed to the joint account this month, which, as far as I am concerned, is just fine. Just makes it that much easier for me to show I can carry the house by myself.
Tax time is here. My laptop has all the joint account information, which he would need to file taxes--income from the apartments, deductions for the mortgage, etc.
He always handled pulling that info together. We would go to a tax person together, and as we had done that for years, the tax guy would just enter the updated info into the computer. I could just be a dumb girl and not know anything about it!
Anyhow, I pulled together a quicken report on the joint. AFAIK, all the info we need is there.
We also re-fi'ed the house last January, and we get to deduct the points. I have the paperwork in the house, so I will look up that info, too.
Anyhow--who initiates financial talks in your sitch? you or him? At this moment, I have the "power" because the necessary info is in my hands.
I feel like the right thing to do is just send an email with an update on the tenants (the month to month guy is staying, so that is pertinent news); maybe attach the quicken report; ask which one of us is going to file a homestead declaration (a local state thing).
If I don't contact him, he will HAVE to contact me to get this info. And I really don't like feeling like he is stewing and stewing, like we are in a game of chicken and who will give in first?
That's not how I feel. I don't want any "power plays." I just want him to know what he has to know and move on.
What say?
Me: 44 Him: 42 Together: 23 years; never married Bomb: August 1, 2009 Affair since May 2009 Walk away; no conversation; no process
