Dusk at Dawn.

[newmama]

Cutter, whoa..WTF? She totally didn't do anything according to your plan! But good for you for keeping your cool and looking directly at her!

I think avoiding eye contact could have shown 1 or more of the following:
1)doesn't want you to see how she really feels (avoiding eyes is a form of lying)

2)doesn't want to cry

3)feels guilt and/or shame about what she's done to your marriage

4)feels regret/ uncertainty/doubt about what she is doing

Now I know you aren't into mind reading, but how about body language reading?

OK her comments about you being petty and taking too long to reply to her...my immediate response when reading that was "she was hurt!" meaning it hurt her feelings that you ignored her.
Hurt=cares about you still.

( Each time she said inconsiderate she would mention that it pales in comparison or something else )

Please explain what you meant here...did she literraly say "it pales in comparison" to what she did???

Now about this proposed email:

"Are you sure you want to continue down this path that you have chosen. Because there is another option available. I am will to look towards reconsilation. Even though I know it will be a long and difficult journey to undertake.... But with both of us working towards this it can be done."

I say clean it up a bit...the tone sounds a little too "high and mighty." You want to come across as desirable, not weak and needy but not arrogant and martyr like either. Maybe something like:

"Ladybug, when we last talked, you said that you thought I was being petty when I didn't communicate with you.Please understand that I was avoiding you not to be hurtful but to build a life for myself and was coming to terms with the fact that you want to legally separate. I am still undecided about whether to separate and would be open to talking about reconciliation.I can meet Friday at 5 at (a place you both used to go to???). Take care, Cutter"

It's a rough draft ....