OP, By asking her along, you have given her the option of saying yes or no. You've left the door open and she's not feeling any pressure. You are doing a great job! Keep your expectations at zero!
You are doing a great job!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
