i think my H feels the same way...guilty but sure this is the right decision. the thing is i can't say either one of us blew it. there's nothing i can even point to to say, this is why we are parting ways. it feels like such a silly reason to get divorced - because he feels i've chipped away at him and made him feel like he can't make me happy. we've only been together for 5 years. my DB coach said that i've owned up to responsibilities that some people don't realize until much later in life and marriage...so why is he so determined to get out of our marriage only 2 years in?? my parents have been married for 40 years. if i had a dime for every time i'd heard my mother criticize my father...i would have a WHOLE LOT of dimes.
he still hasn't told me when he's moving in. just that he's full of pain and hurt but that he knows this will be the best thing for both of us in the long run. i've had to fight the urget to pull out my DB book and hit him in the face with it. i know i can't ask him to read it, but...it totally changed the way i saw myself in my marriage, so i figure it couldn't hurt him to read it.
anyone else on here asked their spouse to read the book when they were dead set against it?
Me30 H29 M2.5 T5 H moved out 1/23/2010 H wants signed agreement 3/30/2010 ...feeling hopeless
